Elucidating Questions

Fibromyalgia has been the butt of the joke for years.

Oh but don’t worry because they weren’t making fun of me with fibromyalgia, no, it was other people

So it’s fine right?

Like some Mean Girls bullshit from grade 8

You turn to these girls who were your friends and say “But I have (insert thing they’re making fun of)”

Yeah, but you‘re different

And how that “different” sits with you like a heavy weight

What about me is different?

What about me makes me above the reproach you offer others for the same traits?

And why would you think I’m different?

Why am I not like anyone else with the same things

Freckles, no boobs, boobs, red hair, being LGBTQIA2S+, short, tall

Being disabled

Having things wrong with your body

They told me and told me those other people with fibromyalgia were different

They complained

They made it all about them

They were owned by their disease

Low and behold I spent years desperately trying not to become any of these things they insisted were wrong with any other person with fibromyalgia

Silencing my pain

Working beyond my ability

Hiding my true condition from people

Why would you want someone you love to be caught in the crossfire of your antics when there are perfectly good things wrong with people to have a problem with?

I wonder sometimes why it’s okay to make fun of something, as long as you don’t like someone, even if it’s something that is present in someone you don’t want to hurt

If you paint with a broad brush you’re going to have a wide brushstroke.

I think it’s wrong to make fun of things people can’t control.