Elucidating Questions

I just got a spam email “a different approach to men’s performance”

And, obviously, it’s talking about the little man but

Isn’t that it?

“Men’s performance”

Like, a performance

And I know gender in and of itself is a performance

But men seem to live with expectations of peak performance all the time

No matter what it is in their “men requirements”

Sex, strength, protection, what have you

I just wonder if they get as exhausted by the theatre as I did

As exhausted by the expectations that never asked if you were able to give them in the first place

Different expectations

Same feeling of being trapped

And some men perform like their life depends on it

Ironically embodying a man’s man’s perfect vision which conflicts with anyone who doesn’t align with

Whatever it is they’re trying to accomplish by being the biggest, loudest, person in the room

It just seems like a terrible situation to be in

I hate when people demand qualities from me I don’t have

I hope their life doesn’t depend on it

But considering the animosity I get for doing harmless things that don’t confirm

The thing is it shouldn’t be this way

Gender feels so heavy and stupid

As soon as you have one you are expected to be a certain way

I feel like gender is like race

We constructed it, used it for oppression, and it really doesn’t serve a function in society

Do you need to know the sex characteristics of the person you’re speaking to?

Surely who they are as a person is more important unless you want to have sex with them?

And then if they have parts that you don’t like just move on or deal with it

The only thing stopping you from enjoying someone’s company is their consent or your own hang ups

I wish more people had relationships without sex involved

It’s such a chore for me

Gender is just a costume

You’re this, so this

And everyone thinks “you’re male because you have a penis”

“and because you have a penis you have to act like x y z”

Where the hell did the second part come from and why didn’t we reevaluate when we realised that chromosomes and sex characteristics aren’t that cut and dry

We are all slaves to our individual internal and external chemicals

Our internal and external experiences

We may be similar in shape but we are so individual on the inside we put snowflakes to shame

No amount of people are the same due to an organ

We all have hearts and yet the similarities and differences between each person’s heart both physical and being wise

They could create a Universe of their own

I don’t think people are so simple that something like a penis or a vagina could be all there is about them

I don’t believe having one or the other makes you anything

I don’t think having a Biology’s Creativity Moment makes you anything either

They’re just our shape

They may add to our chemistry

Or not, as the case may be

But to think any one chemical in your body takes precedence over the whole

That would be an imbalance

We aren’t meant to be controlled by one single substance in our bodies

It’s a carefully fine tuned system, of stuff

So much put on to a part of us that is just tiny

Merely a piece

When it’s the individual we should look at

And expectations just lead to disappointment