Elucidating Questions

I learned of something very sweet today

In the comments section of an awfully acted video skit.

The premise of the video was adopted black son wakes up from a nap, walks into his kitchen of white family members and gets confused

There were comments on it from adopted people, and adoptive people

Both saying they’d had experiences where they forget they or their loved one was adopted

One from a woman who has a black son in law and almost forgot he wasn’t just her son

One from a sibling of an adopted child whose parents accidentally filled out his adopted sibling’s family medical history completely forgetting he was adopted

I was not aware things like this happened

Sometimes humans are so wholesome I could die

It made me wonder if my mum ever got to forget she was adopted

And sadly doubt it

Her biological mum is

I have opinions I won’t express out of respect for my mum and the complexities of her relationship with her and her adoptive parents

My Papa passed away when I was 2.

My Nana when I was 14.

Ish.

I had always learnt about adoption and how it went from media and my family

And my mum didn’t get the happy adopted life she deserved her parents went through the great depression and a world war.

Maybe I figured all adopted kids had these issues you hear about in stories or that my mum went through

Isn’t human love beautiful?

When it’s at its purest

When blood doesn’t even matter anymore

I wish we nurtured that kind of love in this society.

It’s a similar love many teachers have for their students year after year

Accepting them as their sudochildren for a year

Now I’m well familiar that some teachers suck absolute balls and their existence within the broken system that is public schooling enforces said system

But some teachers do it because they love their kids

That matters

It’s that trait that should be nurtured

Not egomaniacal megalomania dressed in heaps of capitalistic exploitation

I don’t believe most people are good anymore

I believe most people are out for themselves and some people are good

I believe that most people have the potential for good

As much as they have potential for evil

But that our society demands so many shades of grey be black and white from us that most people are acting on the selfishness of self preservation

Myself included

Things are too complicated to be as simple as good and evil for the majority of humanity

But learning about these behaviours of people

It makes me sad that so much potential is being wasted but also I have so much admiration for the accidental good things people do

I don’t know how things are going to look in a few months

But at least humanity is hiding things like this from me too

It’s not all unabashed evil to discover