Elucidating Questions

Sometimes I listen to women’s interactions with men

I’m a listener, I’m a watcher

So often the interactions are the man getting upset about something and the woman trying to fix whatever the man is upset about

I don’t know what their motivation is, mine would be fear

The opposite happens as well, a man trying to calm a woman, but there’s less desperation to it when a man does it

More condescending

Control your emotions woman

Society doesn’t realise how disregulated our men’s emotions are

They’re taught incorrectly to never express emotion except they’re often pacified when expressing loud and angry emotions, so that seems to be what they express

Women are often mocked for crying, or expressing loud emotions

The crazy woman

The “over sensitive bleeding heart” woman

This strange societal expectation of certain emotions from a gender

Women must be happy and bubbly and sweet

Men must show limited emotion except anger and outbursts are apparently acceptable

Gender just sounds so constricting

It’s mysterious

Where did it come from?

Seperated by different shapes but this is so arbitrary

Arbitrary as hair, eye, and skin colour

As height, and weight

Hand shape and foot size

It doesn’t mean anything

I remember getting my hair cut short when I was young and losing my shit because it was short

And I lost my shit again when a younger little one called me a boy

So attached to gender was I, clinging to it like it was a part of me

Little boys have this part and little girls have this part

What they didn’t say was gender is a societal construct and varies from culture to culture with no specific definition for what makes one or the other besides shape

What they didn’t say was because you’re shaped a certain way there are lists upon lists of do’s and don’ts depending on each person’s personal ideas of what makes one or the other

What they didn’t say is that every definition of what makes one or the other is always constrictive and puts people in boxes they don’t fit in

What nonsense it is

I’ll just be everything and nothing all at once

Just like I always am

Everything and nothing

It’s sad what society turned people into

Men should be allowed to feel

But they should understand those emotions and regulate them instead of always being an explosion about to go off.